Lesson Two or About Honesty

⁃ about honesty –

What would happen if lying were the norm? Spouses wouldn’t be able to one another; leaders
wouldn’t be credible; and the news would be meaningless. Everything, and I mean everything,
depends on honesty. That’s why it’s so critical to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
The truth is . . . we can’t build relationships if we mistrust what friends say; we won’t follow
leaders if we mistrust what they do; and we can’t make good decisions if we doubt the accuracy
of the information that we receive. Absent truth, instead of taking action, we’d spend our time
looking over other people’s shoulders, second-guessing their intent, and unraveling the facts
from the falsehoods. The result is that trust is shattered, reputation are damaged, and suspicion
rules the day.

So, why do people lie? The reasons are countless. People lie to make themselves look better,
steal the credit, cover up poor performance, conceal mistakes, deflect the blame, protect their
reputations, and deceive and manipulate people. Regardless of the motive, the ultimate results
are the same. As someone once said, “The worst thing about being lied to is knowing you’re not
worth the truth.”

 

The Truth Is Not What It Seems, But What It Is

Dishonesty comes in many shapes and sizes. Of course, some people lie in error, in which they
wholeheartedly believe their words when they’re spoken. Others tell bold-faced lies, knowing
full well that they’re being deceitful. And still other people tell white lies, hoping to protect
someone (often themselves) from the truth. Yet even though some of these folks may be well
intentioned, it’s all lying just the same. How do you identify a lie? As a general rule of thumb, if
your ears hear one thing and your eyes see another, use your brain — because something is
obviously wrong.

What would happen if lying were the norm? Spouses wouldn’t be able to live one another;
leaders wouldn’t be credible; and the news would be meaningless. Everything, and I mean
everything, depends on honesty. That’s why it’s so critical to tell the whole truth and nothing but
the truth.
The truth is . . . we can’t build relationships if we mistrust what friends say; we won’t follow
leaders if we mistrust what they do; and we can’t make good decisions if we doubt the accuracy
of the information that we receive. Absent truth, instead of taking action, we’d spend our time
looking over other people’s shoulders, second-guessing their intent, and unraveling the facts
from the falsehoods. The result is that trust is shattered, reputatiins are damaged, and
suspicion rules the day.
So, why do people lie? The reasons are countless. People lie to make themselves look better,
steal the credit, cover up poor performance, conceal mistakes, deflect the blame, protect their
reputations, and deceive and manipulate people. Regardless of the motive, the ultimate results
are the same. As someone once said, “The worst thing about being lied to is knowing you’re not
worth the truth.”

Truth Be Told

The value of honesty cannot be overstated. Every time someone lies, alarm bells aren’t going
to go off and that person’s nose isn’t going to get larger (like Pinocchio’s), but something
definitely happens. The liar may suspect that the only reason the customer said, “yes” to his
proposal, the only way she dodged the blame, and the only reason the recipient of the lie
thought highly of him or her was due to the lie itself. The question remains: Even though they
fooled someone else, how do liars feel about themselves? The obvious truth is that they
thought they didn’t deserve the outcome or else they would have told the truth in the first place.
They may explain away the lie by telling themselves that everybody does it or that the lie fell in
a gray area. But I must ask you, is that any way to live your life?
When you stand for honesty, you believe in yourself and everything you represent. When you
stand for honesty, everything you say carries the voice of credibility. But, when you’re
dishonest, your soiled reputation will do the speaking for you.

The truth shouldn’t be told only when it’s convenient. Honesty must be a way of life. Honesty
means that you care deeply about trust, cherish your relationships, and value the importance of
a solid reputation. Honesty means that you try to do your best and are willing to accept the
consequences of your actions. Honesty means that you respect others enough to tell them the
truth and that you value your opinion of yourself enough to never live a lie. As the saying goes,
“It’s simple. Never lie to someone who trusts you, and never trust someone who lies to you.”
That’s why it’s critical to always tell the truth — or the truth will tell on you. Honest.

Tell Me the Truth. What Do You Think?

And that’s the story, boo!

With love always,
R.