Lesson One or Being Yourself

being yourself

We’re talking big stuff here.
We are talking about the meaning of life. And that’s YOU.
Legit.

 

Who exactly are you?
What means being yourself?

Firstly, you start by examining you everyday life: thoughts, actions.Try and figure out whether these are a result of the expactations that others have implanted ( such us parents, friends, media, society etc.) or if the things you do match you own personality, values, drives and beliefs. You see where I’m getting at babe?

Yeah…Maybe sometimes the two are congruent.
Sometimes, you try to be more like someone because they embody your beliefs, drives and values, and so you hold on to those aspects that you think will help you bring to surface and allow you to demonstrate these beliefs, drives, and values.

But sometimes, you don’t really understand what you believe. Or what motivates you. Or what you value. Your confusion comes from the lack of experiences you would have if you folloed your own path. Life is chaotic.

 

It’s easy to have high values when you have a roof over your head, a caring and nurturing environment;
When you strip away those experiences, and the raw meat left behind still has certain core beliefs, values, and drives – that’s the real you – not those that you think you should have.

You will survive what life throws at you, even though your experiences may temporarily bury them in a protective shell.
Truth be told, until you’ve been through some life experience, it can be difficult to know how to „be yourself” or even know who you are exactly.

So, no more fear or insecurities babe, it’s time to throw yourself at life. Let yourself fail, make calculated risks (and even the occasional leap into the darkside) and see what becomes of these experiences, real stuff, real lessons, a real YOU.

Take a leap of faith and be the person you were meant to be, create it, embrace it.

This is the only way for being a happy person in this life!
You have to know you, you have to accept yourself with everything you find out about you, you have to learn to love you no matter what, you have to dare after all of these things, to tell to every person you’ll ever met that YOU are the only YOU on this planet, one of a kind.

„Love me or hate me! I don’t have another ME! I am the only ME I have!”
Dare to be unique! Dare to Be Reprobable!
..and don’t care!
Wear your style! Tell us about yourself, not about..John Doe! Who the fuck is this John Doe anyway? And who loves him?

As an afterthought, why is it that I don’t think that interactions with others shape who we are?
Well, in a way I do – but I think it is very very rare for it to shape the inner person you are.
Here’s why:
Social interactions define how we interact with others, but I’m not sure they tell us a lot about ourselves.
We may mould our reactions in order to ‘fit in’ but that’s more about communication than ‘being’.
The ‘being’ part is more about the part that remains constant and unaffected by those interactions, other than to be informed and to change based on this.

It’s useful to know when people have different perceptions of who you are, it can actually help you see how the combination of YOUs should be in the final form, it is a way of looking at you from different pair of eyes.
But that’s all it is – a view on your interactions, not a view on who you are intrinsically, that is entirely your personal domain of activity.
If I look at a sports car and say ‘That is a nice car’ based on my perception on Sports Stars for example, having a positive connotation about wealth and sexual magnetism, and then, someone else looks at it…and looks at it as it is something that took their child from them and is thus driven by ass-holes and murderers, then what does that say about the car?
Nothing. It’s still a car, with an engine, four wheels, an object that needs fuel.

However, the world is neutral, isn’t it?!?!
Negativity is only a result of your attitude.
I don’t want to say something as „change your attitude” because i suppose it’s unnatural. I would rather say it would be better for you to accept and understand the world as it is, with the good and the bad. Try not to judge, let life take its course.

After time has passed, just hope that you’ll get to realise that life is neither good nor bad. The true world is as simple as these two words: beautiful and mysterious.

That’s the story, boo!